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I wish I was as “christian” as a dog.

several months ago, i began volunteering hands-on with homeless pups.  I don’t mean to exaggerate my involvement – i just mean that my emotional ability to commit to the cause i feel most passionate about has recently progressed from contributions of a strictly monetary nature to that of a real-life person willing to donate her time.  it hasn’t been easy.  even though countless other selfless souls commit themselves much deeper, my commitment thus far has caused me sleepless nights and crying spells at work.  at times, i feel helpless against the problem – the problem of human mistreatment and neglect of the innocent and ever-forgiving domesticated dog.  i think it’s “baby-step” progress; but i’m glad it’s progress in the direction i never thought i’d be strong enough to go.

i’ve met some of the kindest souls during my adolescent months with this type of work – women and men with good hearts who have inspired me to find the courage to remove my blinders, little by little, so that my passion is strong enough to effectuate positive change.  conversely, i’ve been made aware of some very cruel beings.  i know you have to be pretty damn bad to cause harm to a loyal, loving and trusting animal – and even worse, that behavior is indicative of later violence towards children and humans.

but i digress.  what i meant to talk about is the unknowing piousness that my lovely little canines exhibit.  i don’t think that religion can be neatly confined into any one belief, book, mantra or ritual.  i think it’s both bigger and smaller than that.  in my opinion, it means treating people with respect, taking care of yourself and others, showing kindness to all living things and showing compassion and empathy.  anyway, from what i know, a true “christian” is able to always forgive; to always love and to always see the good in everyone.  i’m not sure why those qualities are ‘christian,” and oftentimes, they are not.  i’m just speaking from common lingo i suppose.

so if we assume that christianity is defined in that way, then goddamnit, dogs are better christians than humans by a LONG shot.  they love in the face of a cruel and finicky owner.  they trust in spite of personal experience that tells them otherwise.  and they sense how we feel – they understand sadness on some level and know to snuggle near you and provide comfort.  maybe they don’t know the supposedly important details of the bible, but they are being good, and a lot of christians could learn from them.

i don’t mean to necessarily call out the christians here; i just am most familiar with what they are supposed to stand for – at least what i think they are supposed to stand for; before things get muddied by outdated books and unsolicited religious interpretation.  just be a good person.  and a dog can teach you just how to do that.

i’m getting tired now, but i plan to write next about our rescue run team and some other good stuff.  until then, learn from your dog.  no, not the eating trash or sniffing butt part, but the tail-wagging, forgiving and up-beat part.

adios for now,

mrs. parks


Halloween, love and such So, I haven’…

Halloween, love and such

So, I haven’t been on here in forever, I know. And I know that probably no one reads it anymore, but here I am! Writing while my baby schnoodle sits on my chest and reminds me that me REAL job is to pet her. Gus, I could use a little help here!
So, anyway, I’m about to be married to a THIRTY ONE year old! It’s his birthday in two days… I wish I was doing something cool for him like last year, but it looks like he’s going to be stuck with just me this year!
Ok I’m clearly all over the place. Let me try to summarize the last year or so. I began yoga teacher training, I’m still a lawyer, my husband got a studio, I started volunteering with perfect pet adoption, we are having a Halloween party, my best friend got engaged, we’re trying unsuccessfully to sell our house..and a scary homeless guy tried to sell me a pain killer pill for two dollars. All is good in the world! And don’t worry, I declined the aforementioned street drug. love to all!!

are our dogs really smart, really anxious or both?

mr. parks and i absolutely ADORE our two dogs – gus is a 6 and 1/2 year old terrier mix, and pickle is a 1 and 1/2 year old poodle/schnauzer mix.  we spend a lot of our time at home raving about how amazing and smart and cute and interesting they are.  however, at times our adoration seems to have backfired.  sometimes (most of the time?), they expect too much from us.  remember dogs in the 1980’s?  it seems like they used to greet their owners and then curl up by their feet.  i’m pretty sure those dogs didn’t follow their owners into the bathroom.  literally.  and if you try to close our dogs out (from the bathroom, mind you); well, they could react in a couple of ways: (1) wait right outside the door somewhat patiently (this is the best case scenario), (2) wait outside the door but breathe heavily and tap the door with their paw; or (3) sit *somewhat* patiently outside the door, occasionally inserting a desperate and anxious pant (point being that you never really forget that they are there and, more importantly, WAITING).

anyway, the point of this blog, if there is one, is to complain about the behavior of our beloved, but spoiled, dogs.  right now they are both asleep right by me, so it’s hard to complain (maybe impossible).

can’t we all (shouldn’t we all?) get along?

how much do we really know about the people we surround ourselves with?  i’d like to say “a lot.”  at least i think that’s true for most of the people i know.  and with those people, i believe i would be able to predict the way they might react to certain undiscussed topics.  very recently, i learned how untrue my assumption can be.  i was surprised to read some ignorant, unintelligent comments that a “friend” of ours wrote.

i don’t mean to presume that only my opinions are correct or fair.  i only know that my opinions are my own, and i should treat them as such.  that is, i would not impose my opinions on other people, and i rarely get into debates about them unless there is some imminent reason for it. i haven’t engaged in a dialogue about the topic i am about to discuss.  this is probably because a rational, conversational debate on this subject is rare.  at least in my experiences…

i would like to invite friendly, respectful conversation about gay marriage.  i would like to try to understand why someone might be opposed to gay marriage.  it sounds simple, but every reason that i hear comes across as intolerant.  i’m having trouble understanding why anyone would object – it’s not as if anyone is asking you to be homosexual, or to get married for that matter.  so why are people even voting on this issue?  my questions may seem rudimentary, but i suppose that shows how idiotic the opposition is.  i recently read a frightfully passionate expression regarding this very topic, written by a man i know (thought i knew).  after reading and analyzing his heartfelt opinions, i think that this particular man is incredibly uncomfortable with his own sexuality.  that is the only way that he could be so calculatedly hateful and opposed to the concept – he must be struggling with his feelings.  i imagine it must be difficult for him.  he has a conservative christian preacher/pastor father.  although such a person should radiate acceptance and unconditional love, it is more likely and realistic that a gay son would cast a shadow on his ability to teach and to lead.  unfortunately, many of the proclaimed christians that i know (but NOT ALL) are quite close-minded regarding what their fellow man or woman can and cannot do in the privacy of their own bedroom.  I’m not sure why that becomes an issue, christian or otherwise, but apparently it does.

the person that i am so passively responding to has strong feelings about gay marriage – the strongest i have ever seen.  his arguments become downright ridiculous, and it begs the question as to why he expends so much time and energy to the rejection of a concept that really wouldn’t affect or harm his daily life.  in our world, we are LUCKY to come across two individuals who love each other and want to make a life together.  marriages that work, that last, are incredibly rare.  who are we kidding?  marriage isn’t about sex and reproduction and all that – it’s about FRIENDSHIP and respect.  i don’t think that “friendship” and “respect” are exclusive to heterosexual relationships.  i think they exist in ANY good relationship, whatever your sexual orientation may be.  it takes a lot to offend me, but this person, with his steadfast opposition to gay marriage, gay love and gay adoption, has done so.  he has offended me more than i have ever been offended…so i can’t even begin to imagine how passionate people feel.  this is the response from an average, open-minded girl.  i have no particular motivation.

so it’s time to remove this person from my circle of acquaintances.  i am sure that he must have a good heart underneath it all, but i am not the person to find it.  maybe i’m being narrow-minded, but it’s truly difficult for me to comprehend why someone would object to the personal, private happenings of other people.  if you object on the basis on governmental benefits, than i simply ask you to reconsider and analyze governmental benefits as a whole…that’s an easily dismissed objection.  whatever you believe or support, there are governmental programs for and against it.  maybe an opponent to this post can come up with a different rationale.  and maybe not.  at least i have said some of what i want to say, and maybe one person our there will identify or understand, or take the time to respond.  thank you, and happy holidays!