Category Archives: Philosophy

can’t we all (shouldn’t we all?) get along?

how much do we really know about the people we surround ourselves with?  i’d like to say “a lot.”  at least i think that’s true for most of the people i know.  and with those people, i believe i would be able to predict the way they might react to certain undiscussed topics.  very recently, i learned how untrue my assumption can be.  i was surprised to read some ignorant, unintelligent comments that a “friend” of ours wrote.

i don’t mean to presume that only my opinions are correct or fair.  i only know that my opinions are my own, and i should treat them as such.  that is, i would not impose my opinions on other people, and i rarely get into debates about them unless there is some imminent reason for it. i haven’t engaged in a dialogue about the topic i am about to discuss.  this is probably because a rational, conversational debate on this subject is rare.  at least in my experiences…

i would like to invite friendly, respectful conversation about gay marriage.  i would like to try to understand why someone might be opposed to gay marriage.  it sounds simple, but every reason that i hear comes across as intolerant.  i’m having trouble understanding why anyone would object – it’s not as if anyone is asking you to be homosexual, or to get married for that matter.  so why are people even voting on this issue?  my questions may seem rudimentary, but i suppose that shows how idiotic the opposition is.  i recently read a frightfully passionate expression regarding this very topic, written by a man i know (thought i knew).  after reading and analyzing his heartfelt opinions, i think that this particular man is incredibly uncomfortable with his own sexuality.  that is the only way that he could be so calculatedly hateful and opposed to the concept – he must be struggling with his feelings.  i imagine it must be difficult for him.  he has a conservative christian preacher/pastor father.  although such a person should radiate acceptance and unconditional love, it is more likely and realistic that a gay son would cast a shadow on his ability to teach and to lead.  unfortunately, many of the proclaimed christians that i know (but NOT ALL) are quite close-minded regarding what their fellow man or woman can and cannot do in the privacy of their own bedroom.  I’m not sure why that becomes an issue, christian or otherwise, but apparently it does.

the person that i am so passively responding to has strong feelings about gay marriage – the strongest i have ever seen.  his arguments become downright ridiculous, and it begs the question as to why he expends so much time and energy to the rejection of a concept that really wouldn’t affect or harm his daily life.  in our world, we are LUCKY to come across two individuals who love each other and want to make a life together.  marriages that work, that last, are incredibly rare.  who are we kidding?  marriage isn’t about sex and reproduction and all that – it’s about FRIENDSHIP and respect.  i don’t think that “friendship” and “respect” are exclusive to heterosexual relationships.  i think they exist in ANY good relationship, whatever your sexual orientation may be.  it takes a lot to offend me, but this person, with his steadfast opposition to gay marriage, gay love and gay adoption, has done so.  he has offended me more than i have ever been offended…so i can’t even begin to imagine how passionate people feel.  this is the response from an average, open-minded girl.  i have no particular motivation.

so it’s time to remove this person from my circle of acquaintances.  i am sure that he must have a good heart underneath it all, but i am not the person to find it.  maybe i’m being narrow-minded, but it’s truly difficult for me to comprehend why someone would object to the personal, private happenings of other people.  if you object on the basis on governmental benefits, than i simply ask you to reconsider and analyze governmental benefits as a whole…that’s an easily dismissed objection.  whatever you believe or support, there are governmental programs for and against it.  maybe an opponent to this post can come up with a different rationale.  and maybe not.  at least i have said some of what i want to say, and maybe one person our there will identify or understand, or take the time to respond.  thank you, and happy holidays!

Went out last night…

I went out last night, and i have come to realize that there are so many unhappy people out and about in bars, or clubs looking for something to fill the void, and it all seems so pointless when you are coming form the point of view of being in love. i suppose that i have a skewed perspective of it all since i am fortunate enough to have everything i have ever dreamed of in my life – my partner, Mrs. Parks. I mean i get it…everyone is looking for the person to couple up with two by two (lame Dave Mathews reference) but the reality of it all is so many people are packed into crowded bars, looking for the the one person they can call home. I also realize that some are there for mere purely stimulation and any kind of self gratification because they have become so benumbed to their reality and their day to day existence. That’s ok i guess. i just feel like they are looking in the wrong place – i mean i got lucky and found my life partner in a bar – serendipitous and ironic i know coming from the place i was coming from…in my moment of weakness i found my savior, and it wasn’t a Jesus. It was a silly Blondie girl that wouldn’t stop staring at me. I just feel like these people  for the most part,  are not going to find what they are looking for in a drunken haze,  in some bar in town…then again, i’m not sure where the ideal place is that you can meet people – quality people. Perhaps they are just as prone to blind luck or the law of attraction or whatever as i was…who am i to judge? I guess i just didn’t like to vibe…and i guess, as much as i hate to put myself in that group – i’m growing up, and no longer care about being seen or anything…i just want to have a harmonious home with person that i chose, and have a bottle of wine and cook dinner instead of spending $75.00 at some bar. I mean i have thought of all this before – it’s not like this just came to me. I never have been comfortable around a lot of people, or loud music (that sucks) ; i would just rather get wasted with my lady and best friends, with no agendas, no ulterior motives – just friends genuinely hanging out…and creating memories together…a celebration of life because it is so short and precious and sacred. That’s what truly matters – being with the people you love – not trying to prove something or manifest some fleeting, poignant moment that will mean nothing as soon as the liquor wears off. i’ve been there, and those memories never last or carry much weight in the long run. It’s when you stick through the thick and thin – it’s when you sacrifice for the other that you love that anything takes on meaning and significance. I’m babbling and it’s late so whatever…i love you Steph….

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overcome yourself, not obstacles…

For quite some time now, I have told my self that there are no easy avenues in life – you simply cannot go around having wished granted, and things falling into your lap. Life is hard. It takes guts sweat and blood to achieve anything great in this life…or maybe not. Maybe it takes something else…

The old adages such as “if it is too good to be true than it probably is” or “nothing in life that is worth anything is easy” – these are good maxims to go by – I could agree with this to some extent. There are a lot of things in life, that if obtained without some sort of sacrifice, or hustle on your part, then you may have less respect for that which you have just received. I also agree on a certain level, that benefits that you may reap by chance, or “luck” may also be a very dangerous thing, because it didn’t take any discipline to obtain it. This is not bad advice. However, I am starting to think that these ideas are primarily, western indoctrinated philosophies or psychologies, that are starting to become outdated, and may soon be a farce if you want them to be…
I am not undermining the virtue of hard work here, but I am saying that perhaps instead of swimming up stream, there is a more efficient means of achieving all that you have ever desired. A more dynamic, matter-of-course method of harmonizing with the circumstances of your world instead of fighting them… I will tell you why…


Fundamentally, we all know that the earth is round, and it revolves around the sun. This was not always so. The world believed at one point that the earth indeed was flat and that the universe was a geocentric one. We all once believed in the Easter Bunny until we discovered otherwise. The point I am trying to make is that these ideas that we have established, are sometimes bound by our capacity to conjure or describe them. Laws and absolutes comfort us – it lets us know where we stand – a standard. Infinite possibilities scare us. The idea that there is so much out there that we do not know or even have the intellect to process, makes some people very uneasy – and of course there are others who don’t care one way or the other…to get back to my point (which I haven’t made yet
) without taking too much of a stream of consciousness detour is that I have been thinking seriously as of late about the power you have within yourself to discover things and even to change things – your reality, anything… be it physical things, conceptual things, defying physical laws of nature…or maybe just bending them by coming to a new understanding of your place in all of universe. I think that self deprecation is overrated. You don’t have to be tough on yourself anymore. There is nothing noble about suffering for any sort of plight or cause or goal anymore. The new era is coming where this kind of zeitgeist is outdated and archaic. Why? I will tell you in my next post…stay posted…(don’t you hate that?) I have to get the answer to two more questions…

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everyone needs a family who loves them…

lately i’ve been trying to conquer one of my biggest “fears.” i guess i’m probably using the word “fear” incorrectly; i guess i mean that i’ve been trying to get over my emotional inhibition in regards to hanging out with homeless dogs. ever since i was a young child, i have loved animals – all animals. i distinctly remember the first (and only) time that i killed a spider. i was three years old, and it was a daddy long legs. i was sitting on the porch with my mom and i told her to step on it. i knew it was wrong, instantly. i mean, who are we to presume that a spider’s life is less important than our own? the only reason that we feel important on this earth is because we’re frightened to think about the fact that we might NOT be all thatjackson1.JPG important. who is to say that the spider, the ant, the atom, doesn’t have its own sphere of life as we do? and who’s to say that there isn’t a larger sphere of life in which WE are the ants or spiders or atoms? i guess i’m straying from my topic about animals. it’s easy for me to stray. i’ve often been asked why and how i can be so positive and happy while also thinking that we, as humans, might be an unimportant organism in the universe. i think there is an easy answer to the question – i believe that my existence on earth is important TO ME because i am incapable of knowing anything else. if this is all i have, well, hell, i’ll make the best of it. but i’m not ABOUT to think that i am created in the image of god of whatever. that’s silly. the bible is silly. fitting everything into a book that has been translated 1000 times and is 2000 years old is silly. what i know is love – love for my family, for my friends, for my life partner chris, for my doggie goose. that’s all. that’s all.

actually – i’ve decided to edit this because i never finished my initial thought, which was about dogs. i am probably the most emotional human being you’ve come across. unfortunately i’ve let that emotion stop me from personally contributing to a cause i care very much about – giving homeless dogs a great new life. i’ve always contributed financially, which is easy, but i want to love these dogs. i want to be the person who makes them feel that everything is going to be ok. i’m going to stop crying every time i think about abandoned dogs. now, i’m going to DO something (aside from money) about it. i don’t mean to undermine the financial side of non-profit contribution – if i ever make a lot of money in my life, i’m going to help out as many adoption shelters as i possibly can. i hope so very much that i can make a difference someday in the near-ish future. i want these loyal and loving animals to know that there are loved back.

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